When trying to figure out a direction for your life and career, people often ask themselves questions such as “What is my passion?” or “What am I most interested in?” You might be asking yourself some of these questions right now.
The Wrong Question
If you really want to be successful in life, this is the wrong question to ask.
Here’s why: If you want to be excellent at any field, it takes A LOT of hard work. Much of this work isn’t very fun. It often requires long hours, getting up early, working late, struggling at the edge of your abilities, and working through roadblocks and failures.
Passion and interest are nice, but at the end of the day, they aren’t enough. A better question to ask yourself is this: “What are you willing to suffer for?”
Getting to the Top Requires Suffering
Getting to the top requires suffering. Pete Maravich, one of the greatest basketball players of all time, worked on his shot from morning until night. He was usually the last one to leave the gym. Ted Williams, one of the greatest baseball players of all time, did batting practice until his hands bled. Were they passionate or interested in what they did? Sure, but that wasn’t enough. The key was that they were willing to suffer. That’s why they reached the top of their field.
What are You Willing to Suffer For?
What about you? When you think about your life and work, what are you willing to suffer for? What is so important to you, that you are willing to work long hours, get up early, and stay up late? What is so important to you that you are willing to endure struggle, pain, and suffering? That is what your life should be about.
Not Willing to Suffer
Let me give you a couple of examples to make this idea more concrete. Several years ago, I visited a good friend of mine down in Mexico. He was doing some amazing work and ministry, and after visiting him, I felt motivated to learn Spanish. (I had taken Spanish in junior high and high school, but never really got to a point where I was fluent.) I was passionate and interested in Spanish, and I listened to Spanish CDs in my car for awhile. But I wasn’t willing to suffer for it. When learning Spanish got difficult or inconvenient, I would stop. I never really made any big steps to learn Spanish, like taking a class or living abroad. Because of this, my quest to learn Spanish fizzled out.
Willing to Suffer
Here’s another example. Earlier in my life, I wanted to get in shape. I had been overweight growing up, and I wanted to change that and get in shape. I was passionate and interested in getting in shape, but here was the key difference: I was willing to suffer for it. It was difficult to get up every day and exercise, especially at the beginning when I couldn’t even run a mile without getting completely winded and having to stop and walk. It was hard to turn down drinking soda and eating dessert. The process of getting in shape wasn’t fun or enjoyable. But because I was willing to suffer for it, I persisted and ending up succeeding in my goal.
Forget Passion, Ask About Suffering
The next time you are struggling with the direction in your life, don’t worry too much about what you are passionate about or interested in. Passion and interest are nice to have, but when the rubber meets the road, they aren’t enough. The key question to ask is this: What are you willing to suffer for? If you’re willing to suffer, there’s a good chance you will succeed in your goal. It may take time, and there might be some roadblocks you have to work through. But you will get there. If you aren’t willing to suffer, however, chances are you won’t get very far. Find the area where you are willing to suffer, and success won’t be too far behind.