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It’s Not That Serious

It’s Not That Serious

One of my friends has a mantra he uses when life starts to get tense or stressful: It’s not that serious. We were chatting the other day, and the mantra came up. He and his fiancé are in the midst of planning their wedding. I got married a few years ago, so I know it...
The Problem with Anticipating Pain

The Problem with Anticipating Pain

I’ve been getting in a bad habit of anticipating pain. Here’s what I mean: Let’s say I’m entering a situation that is uncertain, or has the possibility for pain. I’m focusing on the possibility of pain at some point in the future, and it’s making me feel crappy in the...
Move Toward Your Anxiety

Move Toward Your Anxiety

Anxiety is a powerful emotion. If you struggle with anxiety, you know what I’m talking about. Maybe you have racing thoughts, and have trouble settling down. Or maybe your heart starts to beat faster, and you feel stressed out. Maybe you struggle to fall asleep...
Think Workability, Not Ideology

Think Workability, Not Ideology

A lot of times in life, we are worried about doing the right thing. We have clear views about what is right and what is wrong. We get triggered and angry when someone else has a different moral position. We lose sleep and get stressed out because another person...
In Nutrition and Life, Aim for 80/20

In Nutrition and Life, Aim for 80/20

One of my favorite books about nutrition and exercise is “The Primal Blueprint” by Mark Sisson. One of the key principles he talks about in the book is that he believes you should aim to follow your nutrition plan 80% of the time. There are 2 key reasons for this...
Aim for Radical Responsibility

Aim for Radical Responsibility

We were taught from a young age that it’s good to be responsible. At its core, being responsible means you are accountable for your actions. In other words, you’re in control of how you act and behave. Outside My Control Sometimes external events happen that are...
How to Be At Peace with Yourself and the World

How to Be At Peace with Yourself and the World

When you get to the bottom of people’s problems, most problems have to do with a lack of peace. Stress, anxiety, sorrow, depression—all these difficult emotions and experiences have the potential to disrupt our equilibrium. Our struggle is often one of trying to...
What I Learned from a Weekend of “Wasting Time”

What I Learned from a Weekend of “Wasting Time”

Sometimes I have the tendency to work all the time. I don’t necessarily want to work constantly, it’s just a default I go to when I have some empty space in my life. If I don’t have anything going on, I think to myself, “Well, I might as well get something...
Why Problems are a Good Thing

Why Problems are a Good Thing

Most of the time, we think of problems in our lives as a bad thing. We want to remove or get rid of our problems. I think this is a natural tendency—problems can cause pain, stress, and anxiety. These can be unpleasant emotions, and it’s natural to want to get rid of...
Self-Care: What is It? How Do We Do It?

Self-Care: What is It? How Do We Do It?

If you take a look at the self-help or psychology section at your local bookstore (or on Amazon), you will find a lot of books on self-care. As psychologists, we talk a lot about self-care with our clients and students. But what is self-care? And more importantly, how...