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Watch Your Projection

Watch Your Projection

This morning, I made coffee for Jenn, but I only poured her half a cup. When I gave the coffee mug to her, she was annoyed. “Why didn’t you pour me a full cup?” she asked. Why indeed? After a moment of self-reflection, I realized that when I drink coffee, I like to...
2 Reasons Why You Need More Conflict in Your Life

2 Reasons Why You Need More Conflict in Your Life

We often try to avoid conflict in our lives. I’m as guilty of this as anyone. For some reason, conflict makes me uncomfortable. I start to get anxious, and I struggle to keep a level head. Because of this, when conflict starts to arise, I want to sweep it under the...
Who Are You? How Your Identity Can Help You Change

Who Are You? How Your Identity Can Help You Change

When trying to make a change, we often focus on the specific tasks we need to do. Eat more fruits and vegetables. Exercise three times per week. Stop smoking. Plan a date night. These actions and behaviors are important, but sometimes we can get bogged down in the...
FINE? Feelings Inside Not Expressed

FINE? Feelings Inside Not Expressed

I got together with a friend not too long ago who was struggling. I knew he was having a tough time, but when I asked how he was doing, he just replied, “Fine.” I’m always a little wary when I hear someone say they’re fine. What does fine mean, anyways? FINE: Feelings...
Do You Want Help or Feedback?

Do You Want Help or Feedback?

There’s a simple question I have started to ask people in my life, and it’s been very helpful for my relationships. Here’s the question: Do you want help or feedback? The Fixer In life, my tendency is to be a fixer. It’s just how I’m wired. When someone tells me about...
Why You Should Seek Out Problems

Why You Should Seek Out Problems

Most of us try to avoid or escape from our problems. I’m guilty of this as much as anyone. In my relationship with my wife, for example, I don’t like it when we’re having an argument. I want to keep the peace. In my work, I get frustrated when I’m facing a difficult...
Identify and Honor the Hidden Want

Identify and Honor the Hidden Want

I want to talk to you today about the importance of identifying and honoring the “hidden want.” Visible Wants Often in our lives, we have a want or goal we are working toward. This want is visible. It’s out there in the open. We get up in the morning...
Be Clear and Upfront About What You Want

Be Clear and Upfront About What You Want

In your relationships, it’s important to be clear and upfront about what you want. This can be challenging, but if you are clear about what you want, it usually turns out better for everyone. You can clearly communicate what you want, and the other person can respond...
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