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How to Make the Most of the Space Between

How to Make the Most of the Space Between

Between an impulse and a reaction, there is the space between. That space between is where the difference between success and failure often happens. The Pull to React Sometimes in my life, I blow past the space between and just react to my impulses. For example,...
What Masks Do You Wear?

What Masks Do You Wear?

Halloween is one of my favorite holidays. I love dressing up. I even have a costume trunk in my living room. 11 months out of the year, I use it as a coffee table. But in October, I dig through it and try to figure out what I should be for Halloween. Playing a Part I...
Do Your Best and Accept the Rest

Do Your Best and Accept the Rest

Sometimes I struggle with the tension between action and acceptance. On the one hand, I want to be disciplined and do the best I can in life. There are areas of my life I want to improve. If I want to reach my goals, it’s going to take purposeful, consistent effort....
Let Down Your Drawbridge

Let Down Your Drawbridge

When we are in pain, we have the tendency to raise our defenses. This actually makes good sense. We don’t want to get hurt again, so the prudent thing to do is to protect ourselves. We retreat back into our castle, behind our fortified walls, and pull up the...
Why Grace and Acceptance is Our Greatest Need

Why Grace and Acceptance is Our Greatest Need

A few years ago, I spent the Labor Day weekend in Holland, Michigan, connecting with some good friends from graduate school. Holland is a beautiful small town in Western Michigan. We caught up, ate great food, hiked the sand dunes, and swam in Lake Michigan. The...
Why It’s Important to Finish Well

Why It’s Important to Finish Well

Have you ever struggled to finish something in your life? I was dealing with this issue the other day. I was working on a book manuscript, and I was losing steam. I had done quite a bit of work on the project, but the finish line still seemed so far off. There was a...
Who Moved My Cheese?

Who Moved My Cheese?

One of my favorite books is “Who Moved My Cheese” by Spencer Johnson. (If you don’t like to read, there’s a great 10-minute video you can watch here.) The story is about two mice and two humans who live in a maze. Cheese represents whatever it...
What is Important vs. What is Urgent

What is Important vs. What is Urgent

We can get in trouble in our lives when we mistake what is important for what is urgent. What is Important? What is important has to do with your values. Values are like the guiding map that directs your actions and behaviors. Values have to do with what is most...
Why You Shouldn’t Count the (Sunk) Costs

Why You Shouldn’t Count the (Sunk) Costs

Before you made a decision growing up, your parents probably told you to count the costs. Usually this is good advice, unless the costs are sunk. What is a Sunk Cost? When we make a decision, we often consider resources (e.g., time, effort, money) that we have already...
When to Let the Sun Go Down on Your Anger

When to Let the Sun Go Down on Your Anger

We’ve all heard the old adage, “Don’t let the sun go down on your anger.” Usually this is good advice. It’s important for couples to deal with their issues, and not let their anger fester. Like a wound, it’s good to clean the anger out, even if it feels painful at the...
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