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How to Move from Asking “Why?” to “What?”

How to Move from Asking “Why?” to “What?”

We all experience difficult times in our life. Pain and struggle are universal to the human experience. Even Jesus promised his followers, “In this world you will have trouble” (John 16:33). We can’t get away from pain, or completely remove it from our lives. And...
The Problem with Anticipating Pain

The Problem with Anticipating Pain

I’ve been getting in a bad habit of anticipating pain. Here’s what I mean: Let’s say I’m entering a situation that is uncertain, or has the possibility for pain. I’m focusing on the possibility of pain at some point in the future, and it’s making me feel crappy in the...
What’s “Good” About Good Friday?

What’s “Good” About Good Friday?

I’ve always thought the name “Good Friday” was a bit odd. What’s good about Jesus getting brutally tortured and murdered? It seems like the opposite of good. Some people might argue that we call it Good Friday because of what happens on Easter Sunday—the resurrection...
Find the Problem You Can Solve

Find the Problem You Can Solve

Most people shy away from problems. They don’t like them, so they try to avoid them. This is natural—we all have a tendency to avoid pain and discomfort when possible. However, if you want to be successful in life, you have to counteract this natural tendency to avoid...
Ski for the Spaces

Ski for the Spaces

A competitive skier was doing an interview about how he navigated skiing through the trees. Skiing through the trees can be very dangerous. In fact, one of the most common ways that people die when skiing is by hitting a tree. But this guy actually skies into the...
To Love and Serve Others, You Need Empathy

To Love and Serve Others, You Need Empathy

I was listening to a sermon awhile back, and the pastor shared an interesting story that struck a chord with me. The story provided insight into how we can love and serve other people better. Waiting in Line at Mustang Donuts He was waiting in line at Mustang Donuts...
The Key Isn’t the Mess, It’s the Response

The Key Isn’t the Mess, It’s the Response

I was listening to a sermon the other day, and the pastor was talking about how to deal with the “messes” in our life. It’s something we can all relate to, isn’t it? We all have certain aspects of our life that feel like a mess. Maybe our job is a mess right now. Or...
Let Down Your Drawbridge

Let Down Your Drawbridge

When we are in pain, we have the tendency to raise our defenses. This actually makes good sense. We don’t want to get hurt again, so the prudent thing to do is to protect ourselves. We retreat back into our castle, behind our fortified walls, and pull up the...
How to Use Negative Emotions as Information

How to Use Negative Emotions as Information

Most of the time in life, we try to avoid or escape from negative emotions. This is really common in counseling. Most of the time, people seek counseling in order to “feel better.” On one hand, this makes a lot of sense to me. Anxiety feels bad. Depression feels bad....
How to Rejoice in Suffering

How to Rejoice in Suffering

There’s an interesting passage in Paul’s letter to the church in Rome where he encourages his readers to rejoice in their suffering. I’ve always struggled with this idea, because it seems out of touch with reality. I don’t know anyone who likes to suffer. When I’m...
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