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Use Negative Emotions, Don’t Lose Them

Use Negative Emotions, Don’t Lose Them

I was feeling anxious not too long ago. There were a lot of things on my mind. I had several writing projects with due dates approaching. The lease for my apartment was up, and I had to figure out if I wanted to sign a new lease or move out. I was dealing with a...
3 Keys to Personal Growth

3 Keys to Personal Growth

Today I want to share a 3-part framework that I use to help people who are working toward personal growth. I use this model in my own life, as well as with clients I’m trying to help. The model involves three key areas of focus: (1) freedom, (2) values, (3) action....
How to Live with Uncertainty

How to Live with Uncertainty

One of the most challenging things to navigate in life is living with uncertainty. My wife and I are dealing with this right now, as we try to have a baby. We have had trouble getting pregnant, and we’re working with an infertility doctor. But the future is uncertain....
Do the Hard Thing First

Do the Hard Thing First

The other day, I had a long list of tasks I needed to get done. There was one task I was NOT looking forward to. I had to call the insurance company to follow up about a claim regarding a car accident I was in when I was riding in an Uber. It wasn’t a complicated...
How to Anchor a Powerful State

How to Anchor a Powerful State

When trying to live a good life and have a positive attitude, we often reflect on our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. All three are important and have a huge impact on how we engage in our day-to-day life. Hard to Shift Thoughts, Feelings, and Behaviors Sometimes...
7 Steps to Change Anything in Your Life

7 Steps to Change Anything in Your Life

People come to counseling for a variety of reasons, but the one constant is that they usually want to change something in their lives. Something about their life is not how they want it to be, and they have an idea that it could be different somehow. If you think...
It’s Not That Serious

It’s Not That Serious

One of my friends has a mantra he uses when life starts to get tense or stressful: It’s not that serious. We were chatting the other day, and the mantra came up. He and his fiancé are in the midst of planning their wedding. I got married a few years ago, so I know it...
3 Keys to Living a Good Life

3 Keys to Living a Good Life

Everyone wants to live a good life and be happy. But so many of us struggle. We wrestle with depression, anxiety, and relationship problems, just to name a few. What are some of the key principles to keep in mind when trying to craft the life you really want? Here are...
The Problem with Anticipating Pain

The Problem with Anticipating Pain

I’ve been getting in a bad habit of anticipating pain. Here’s what I mean: Let’s say I’m entering a situation that is uncertain, or has the possibility for pain. I’m focusing on the possibility of pain at some point in the future, and it’s making me feel crappy in the...
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