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You Must Unlearn What You Have Learned

You Must Unlearn What You Have Learned

May the Fourth Be With You 🙂 One of my favorite scenes from the Star Wars movies happens when Luke is training with Yoda during The Empire Strikes Back. Luke is training in the Force, and he is struggling. At one point, he fails to move his ship with the Force, and...
1 Quick Exercise to Separate From Painful Thoughts

1 Quick Exercise to Separate From Painful Thoughts

Painful thoughts can be challenging to work through. Often, we experience a painful thought or story about ourselves, and we believe it to be literally true. For example, we might think “I’m so stupid”, or “I’m never going to amount to anything.” Thoughts don’t come...
Our Thoughts Mediate the Experience of Suffering

Our Thoughts Mediate the Experience of Suffering

When we experience pain and suffering, we often look to an external cause to explain it. I’m upset because I didn’t get that job. I’m depressed because my girlfriend broke up with me. I’m anxious because the world is a dangerous place. Blaming our Suffering on...
What Do You Do With an Unwanted Thought?

What Do You Do With an Unwanted Thought?

Once upon a time, there was a boy named Ben. Ben was a good kid, and enjoyed reading, watching baseball, and playing with his friends. In almost all respects, Ben was a happy, normal child. But there was one thing that troubled him. He had an unwanted thought. The...
Try Again Tomorrow

Try Again Tomorrow

Sometimes the best thing we can do is hang it up for the day and try again tomorrow. A Bad Day This happened to me the other day. For some reason, it just seemed like everything was a struggle. I was feeling stressed about finances and our house renovations. Then, I...
I’m Not Good at Thrusters… Yet

I’m Not Good at Thrusters… Yet

I looked up the Crossfit workout of the day and groaned. The workout was all thrusters: An 11-minute AMRAP (as many reps as possible) of 15 heavy thrusters (70kg), 25 medium thrusters (60kg), and 40 light thrusters (40kg). For those of you who haven’t done a thruster,...
Make Sure Your Thoughts Align With Reality

Make Sure Your Thoughts Align With Reality

It’s important to make sure your thoughts about yourself or your situation match reality as closely as possible. The other day, I was talking with someone who was going through a very stressful time. She was recovering from a health problem that was quite serious. She...
When Struggling, Shift From Negative to Realistic

When Struggling, Shift From Negative to Realistic

Nowadays, people are really focused on thinking positively. We’re encouraged to practice gratitude, be optimistic, and shift our negative thinking to positive thinking. We are told that if you just think positively, positive things will happen to you. Ignore the...
The Work: How to Question Painful Thoughts

The Work: How to Question Painful Thoughts

One of the most important insights from psychology is that the events and situations in our lives do not directly lead to our emotions and reactions. Instead, the events and situations that happen in our lives are filtered through our thoughts, and these thoughts lead...
5 Steps to Change Your Thoughts

5 Steps to Change Your Thoughts

This post is Part 2 in a 4-part blog series on changing our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. (If you missed the previous post, you can find Part 1 here.) Sometimes we feel bad because we hold on to problematic thoughts or beliefs. We aren’t completely rational, and...
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