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FINE? Feelings Inside Not Expressed

FINE? Feelings Inside Not Expressed

I got together with a friend not too long ago who was struggling. I knew he was having a tough time, but when I asked how he was doing, he just replied, “Fine.” I’m always a little wary when I hear someone say they’re fine. What does fine mean, anyways? FINE: Feelings...
Use Negative Emotions, Don’t Lose Them

Use Negative Emotions, Don’t Lose Them

I was feeling anxious not too long ago. There were a lot of things on my mind. I had several writing projects with due dates approaching. The lease for my apartment was up, and I had to figure out if I wanted to sign a new lease or move out. I was dealing with a...
How to Use Negative Emotions as Information

How to Use Negative Emotions as Information

Most of the time in life, we try to avoid or escape from negative emotions. This is really common in counseling. Most of the time, people seek counseling in order to “feel better.” On one hand, this makes a lot of sense to me. Anxiety feels bad. Depression feels bad....
What Can We Learn From Negative Emotions?

What Can We Learn From Negative Emotions?

Usually when people come to counseling, they are in emotional distress. If you are struggling, you might be in that place right now. Maybe you feel depressed, down, and sad. Or perhaps you feel anxious, uptight, and nervous. You want relief from the unpleasant...
Exploring Different Kinds of Unhappiness

Exploring Different Kinds of Unhappiness

I don’t like to be unhappy. When I start to feel sad or frustrated, my tendency is to do something to make myself feel differently. I might try to avoid the thing that is causing my discomfort, or do something to distract myself. Sometimes these strategies to escape...
Why It’s Good to Freak Out Sometimes

Why It’s Good to Freak Out Sometimes

I was working through an issue with my girlfriend the other day, and I was struggling. The issue itself wasn’t a huge deal, but my reaction felt really painful. I was getting triggered, and the issue we were dealing with was bringing up some difficult struggles from...
It’s Okay to Be Sad

It’s Okay to Be Sad

The other day, I was aware of feeling really sad. Nothing terrible happened—some of my issues were getting triggered and I was dealing with that. I knew I wouldn’t feel that way forever, but for the day, I was feeling pretty down. I attended a group discussion that...
3 Ways to Deal with Emotions

3 Ways to Deal with Emotions

Emotions are a huge part of our daily lives. Our feelings let us know we are alive, and they help us to connect with others. Emotions are also important indicators of our needs. For example, if we feel angry, we might need to set a boundary or stop an injustice. If we...
The Emotion Shift

The Emotion Shift

Have you ever felt so much stress and anxiety that you became overwhelmed and couldn’t think straight? Maybe you had to give an important speech, or have a difficult conversation with a friend or colleague. If you asked a friend for advice about what to do, they may...
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