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Limit Extrinsic Reinforcement

Limit Extrinsic Reinforcement

This post is Part 2 in a 2-part blog series on reinforcement and change. (If you missed Part 1, you can find it here.) When you are making a change effort, it is important to think about reinforcement. Reinforcement is a fancy word that refers to something that makes...
Check Your Reinforcement Schedule

Check Your Reinforcement Schedule

This post is Part 1 in a 2-part blog series on reinforcement and change. The spring fundraising campaign on NPR is finally over! For those of you who have no idea what I’m talking about, for two weeks each spring, the public radio station does a fundraising drive....
3 A’s for Change

3 A’s for Change

This post is for those of us who want to change something in our lives. Maybe you want to improve your marriage or relationships with your kids. Perhaps you want to do better at your job, or find a job that is a better fit for your gifts and talents. Maybe you want to...
Do the Opposite On Purpose

Do the Opposite On Purpose

Have you ever had something in your life you wanted to start doing, or stop doing, but you just couldn’t seem to make the change? Or maybe you were able to ‘white-knuckle’ it for awhile, but you haven’t been able to sustain the change. This can be a very frustrating...
If Running is Difficult, Run More

If Running is Difficult, Run More

This lesson applies to anything. For most things in life, the best way to get better is to do the activity over and over again. At first, you probably won’t be very good. But over time, you will improve. It’s inevitable. The tough thing about this advice is it’s hard...
Look for the 1% Improvement

Look for the 1% Improvement

I was feeling frustrated the other day with my lack of improvement in CrossFit. Maybe you can relate. Have you ever worked on something, and didn’t feel like you were getting any better? This can be aggravating. I felt like I was putting in a lot of time and effort,...
I Can’t

I Can’t

“I can’t do it!” I was playing a game with one of my friend’s children. It was a little tricky. You had to hit this ball back and forth to each other with a paddle, and it required some hand-eye coordination. What made an impression on me was the effect the words had...
Want to Change Something? Start by Measuring It

Want to Change Something? Start by Measuring It

Psychologist Everett Worthington once did a research study comparing two types of therapies for improving people’s marriages. He brought couples into the lab, measured them on a bunch of different things, gave couples a summary of how they were doing, and then...
Don’t Be Afraid of Change

Don’t Be Afraid of Change

I felt sad this weekend! On Friday, we had a going-away party for my friend who is moving to New York. Then on Saturday, I met up with a good friend and his family who are moving to Arizona this week. I don’t like change. I’m not exactly sure why. I think it’s mostly...
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