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I Can’t

I Can’t

“I can’t do it!” I was playing a game with one of my friend’s children. It was a little tricky. You had to hit this ball back and forth to each other with a paddle, and it required some hand-eye coordination. What made an impression on me was the effect the words had...
Want to Change Something? Start by Measuring It

Want to Change Something? Start by Measuring It

Psychologist Everett Worthington once did a research study comparing two types of therapies for improving people’s marriages. He brought couples into the lab, measured them on a bunch of different things, gave couples a summary of how they were doing, and then...
Don’t Be Afraid of Change

Don’t Be Afraid of Change

I felt sad this weekend! On Friday, we had a going-away party for my friend who is moving to New York. Then on Saturday, I met up with a good friend and his family who are moving to Arizona this week. I don’t like change. I’m not exactly sure why. I think it’s mostly...
Changing Our Mind

Changing Our Mind

I’m giving a series of talks this week on intellectual humility, so I have been reflecting quite a bit about what it means to be open to other perspectives, including the extent to which we should be open to changing our mind. I read an interesting post on social...
Exodus and ‘Wanting’ Captivity

Exodus and ‘Wanting’ Captivity

I thought one of the most interesting movies from the past year was Exodus, starring Christian Bale. It tells the story of how Moses led the Israelite nation out of slavery in Egypt. One of the most poignant moments of the film occurs at the very end of the movie. The...
Do the Opposite

Do the Opposite

Sometimes you can experience a breakthrough by setting out to do the opposite of what you normally do. As humans, we have a tendency to get into patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving. Some of these patterns are necessary and good. For example, pretty much every...
The Importance of Taking Initiative

The Importance of Taking Initiative

Today I want to talk to you about the importance of taking initiative when working toward your goals. I remember one evening I was on my train ride home from work. The train was busier than usual, and it was hard to find a seat. I wondered why there were so many...
3 Questions to Ask When You Feel Bad

3 Questions to Ask When You Feel Bad

People seek help for all sorts of problems, but at a basic level, most people who seek help are unhappy or feeling bad about some part of their life. They want to figure out a way to live a life that is more satisfying and meaningful. In this blog post, I want to...
Start Small

Start Small

We are in the season of New Year’s Resolutions. It’s the time of year when we think about changes we want to make in our lives. It’s an exciting, hopeful, and optimistic time. But here’s the hard reality: Most New Year’s Resolutions fail. Most people don’t even last...