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5 Strategies to Accept Negative Things in Your Life

In my life lately, I’ve been working on acceptance. In the past, I’ve resisted acceptance. Acceptance seemed weak, like I was okay with failure or not being the best I could be. But as I have grown older, I have realized I do have some limitations. There are certain parts …

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4 Steps to Change Anything in Your Life

If you want to change or improve something about your life, the key is to actually do something different. You can reflect on your thoughts and feelings all day long, but until you actually change something in your actual behavior, you are likely to stay stuck. But change can be …

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Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: How ACT Can Help You Solve Problems and Improve Your Life

I’ve been getting into a counseling approach called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT; pronounced as one word, not “eh-see-tee”). ACT has helped me to effectively deal with problems in my own life, so I thought I would give a brief primer on the approach to see if it can help …

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How To Solve Internal and External Problems

As human beings, we are designed to solve problems. Often our biggest breakthroughs in life and work come from being successful in solving our big problems. However, the flip side is also true. Our most painful experiences come from experiencing failure in solving our most difficult and intractable problems. The …

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When Struggling, Shift From Negative to Realistic

Nowadays, people are really focused on thinking positively. We’re encouraged to practice gratitude, be optimistic, and shift our negative thinking to positive thinking. We are told that if you just think positively, positive things will happen to you. Ignore the negative; focus on the positive. The Problem with Positive Thinking …

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