marriage

Soften for the Sake of the Relationship

Couples have a difficult time dealing with disagreement and conflict. Think about your own relationship. What happens when you disagree about something? Are you able to listen to one another, empathize, understand the other person’s perspective, and work toward a mutually beneficial solution? Probably not. Where Conflict Leads For most …

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An Affirmation a Day Keeps the Divorce Lawyer Away

Recently I wrote a blog post about John Gottman and the 5:1 rule. The take-home message was this: successful marriage or dating relationships had a ratio of at least 5 positive interactions for each negative interaction. 5:1 is Hard Unfortunately, it isn’t easy to keep up this ratio. If you …

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Humility, Growth, and Close Relationships

This post is Part 9 in a 12-part blog series on humility and growth. (If you missed the first post, you can find it here.) Relationships are hard. I mentioned this to my wife as we were talking through some tough things the other day. We have a good relationship, …

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3 Lessons from John Gottman and the 5:1 Rule

In honor of Valentine’s Day, I want to talk to you about a simple rule that can help you have a better marriage or dating relationship. But before I tell you the rule, I want to share a bit about how it came about. John Gottman and the Love Lab …

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