anxiety

Give It Away

I recently got married, and part of the transition involved moving my fiancé and me into a one-bedroom apartment. We got married in our 30s, so we both had been living on our own for several years. We had a lot of stuff. In order to fit into the new …

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Being Present Reduces Fear

I’m getting married in a couple months, and as part of our premarital counseling, our counselor assigned us a book to read, called Saying What’s Real: 7 Keys to Authentic Communication and Relationship Success by Susan Campbell. One of the key points in the book is the encouragement to stay …

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Just Do Something

During graduate school, I worked for a couple of years at the college counseling center at Virginia Commonwealth University. There used to be a well-known psychologist who worked there named Jack Corazzini. I never met him, because he passed away before I worked there. But all the counselors still talked about …

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The Work: How to Question Painful Thoughts

One of the most important insights from psychology is that the events and situations in our lives do not directly lead to our emotions and reactions. Instead, the events and situations that happen in our lives are filtered through our thoughts, and these thoughts lead to our emotions and reactions. …

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