Thoughts

When Struggling, Shift From Negative to Realistic

Nowadays, people are really focused on thinking positively. We’re encouraged to practice gratitude, be optimistic, and shift our negative thinking to positive thinking. We are told that if you just think positively, positive things will happen to you. Ignore the negative; focus on the positive. The Problem with Positive Thinking …

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The Work: How to Question Painful Thoughts

One of the most important insights from psychology is that the events and situations in our lives do not directly lead to our emotions and reactions. Instead, the events and situations that happen in our lives are filtered through our thoughts, and these thoughts lead to our emotions and reactions. …

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Changing Thoughts

This post is Part 2 in a 4-part blog series on changing our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. (If you missed the previous post, you can find Part 1 here.) Sometimes we feel bad because we hold on to problematic thoughts or beliefs. We aren’t completely rational, and sometimes our thoughts …

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